by Khojdeshia Denise | Aug 18, 2015 | Learn + Grow
Mind Over Matter
Have you heard the saying, “mind over matter“? I used to wonder what d this phrase even meant. I’ve learned the mind is where everything starts and ends! As soon as an event happens, you start the process of responding in your mind. You assess the circumstances and then decide what to do from there. This can happen in a second, or over an extended amount of time, but despite how long it takes, you are left with your thoughts to make an appropriate decision on what to do next.
On a daily basis, we all experience a variety of different situations; some pleasant, others not so much! During the unfavorable times, I try to remember that if there is no benefit from what I’m considering doing or saying, then a negative response is just unnecessary and unhelpful. I remind myself that negative energy doesn’t travel far. Most times, you’re left with negativity lingering in your mind long after the situation is over. I’ve come to realize placing yourself in that mental space is NEVER worth it and creates a vicious cycle of unhappiness and negative energy!
So, what happens if you find yourself in a situation that requires your attention, but the other parties involved are being confrontational and negative? You could respond in the same manner, perpetuating the cycle of negative energy, or you can rise above the situation and decide that you won’t engage in a way that will disrupt your peace of mind. Make the decision to remain positive while addressing the issue if necessary. Your mind is so very powerful, life can be very pleasant when you use it to remain positive and preserve your peace! Remember mind over matter.
You aren’t always in a position to control what happens to you, but you are in control of what goes on in your mind! Don’t help anyone or anything hurt you! You help people hurt you by contributing to or engaging in negativity that WILL eventually affect you. YOU are comprised of energy that can neither be created nor destroyed, just transferred from one form to another. Be mindful of this when receiving and sending energy out into the Universe. While interacting with others, remember that if it hurts them, eventually it will hurt you. Regardless of the form or where it comes from, what you send out ALWAYS comes back to you!
All of this can be managed, controlled, and even avoided altogether when you use your mind to assess situations, consider your values, and use your heart to guide you to do what feels right before you engage in anything! If it doesn’t feel right to you, then it isn’t right for you to do! Consider ALL factors of what makes you who you are- your mind, body, and spirit should all agree. When you live from a place that fosters harmony and authenticity, you can feel good as a happy, healthy, and whole woman that lives your truth without negativity! It all starts with a thought and what you believe. Remember: Mind over matter, because this journey is all a mind thing!
LIGHT and LOVE,
Khojdeshia Denise
by Nadya Logan | Aug 18, 2015 | Lifestyle+Culture
The holidays are nearing soon, and if you have a big family like mine, then you probably started saving for gifts in January. For those of you have not, and are interested in doing so, here’s a way to begin budgeting your funds.
According to Mint, a financial management company powered by Intuit, the 50/20/30 rule “can help twenty-somethings sort out the complicated world of personal financeâ€. Meaning that not only can this budgeting guideline be useful during the time leading up to the holidays, but it can be used during all times of the year.
As reported by the chart, 50% of your income should go to anything you’d classify as an “absolute necessity of lifeâ€. This can include, but is not limited to: Rent, Transportation, Groceries, and Utilities. If you would be homeless if you didn’t pay for it, then more than likely, you should be investing 50% or less of your income on it.
The company also advises that you put 20% of your income into your financial priorities. For instance, if you’re 24-years old, you understand that retirement is something that you will need in about 30-40 years from today and you may have student loans to pay back—which is why putting 20% (or more) of your money into any financial obligations that you are taking care of now (and possibly in the future) would be the responsible thing to do. This way, if our economy tanks, and the government runs out of money to fund social security, you will be able to take care of yourself.
As stated on the website, 30% of your income should go to “voluntary obligations that enhance your lifestyleâ€. Things that can be considered a voluntary obligation could be eating out, a gym membership, shopping, or your cell phone/internet/cable plan. But although all of these things are considered a luxury, most people cannot function successfully in our society without having a good cell phone plan or eating out every once in a while, whether for business purposes or personal pleasure.
And as I stated in the beginning of this article, the holidays are coming up soon. So you can mark your mother’s STRONG Box yearlong subscription into your voluntary-obligation category.
If you want more information on the 50/20/30 rule, you find it at https://www.mint.com/budgeting-3/the-minimalist-guide-to-budgeting-in-your-20s
by Torrie Oglesby | Aug 18, 2015 | Learn + Grow
Dear 20 something soul,
Caution: THIS IS NOT WISDOM FROM SOMEONE WHO HAS ALREADY PASSED THEIR TWENTIES. THIS IS AN OPEN CONVERSATON WITH A PEER WHO IS LEARNING AND GROWING JUST AS YOU ARE.
I would be lying to you guys if I said I had it all figured out. I’m personally still in my early twenties and to be honest I’ve been struggling a little bit with finding peace, balance, and contentment in my roaring twenties. Between building my business, feeding the kids, reading books, writing books and making sure I eat a healthy diet there’s a lot to juggle. There’s days when it’s exhilarating and then there’s days when it’s exhausting. There’s moments of clarity and then moments of complete chaos and let’s not even bring up the battle between self-belief and self-doubt. I wanted to start this weekly list of wisdom, thoughts and lessons learned to help us get through these character building and soul maturing years together.
Something #1
ROME WASN’T BUILT IN A DAY
We are in the beginning stages of our adult life. With there being so much pressure to have a respected job, have a house, have financial success, and to look like you have it going on, we tend to forget that things take time. Say it with me, THINGS. TAKE. TIME.
Let’s strive to achieve all the goals we personally have set for ourselves but let’s have grace and remember that Rome was not built in a day. Work hard every day at adding stones to the foundation and remember these years are for sowing and building not reaping and benefiting.
Till next time,
20 something soul
by Nadya Logan | Aug 18, 2015 | Faith + Expressions
God loves His children.
To any believer of God this would be like pointing out a mole that the person has had on their face since birth. But do you really understand the depth of His love?
Romans 8:37-39 reads, “No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord,” (ESV).
Romans is saying that there isn’t a mountain high enough to keep us away from the love of God, but come on. There has to be a time when even God gets exasperated by our foolishness. What if my next mistake is the last straw? Then what?
While these fears may seem reasonable and rational, 1 John 4:18 states, “There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear. For fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not been perfected in love,” (ESV).
There is no last straw with God.
God’s love is undeniably endless.
Even when lose our faith in Him, He keeps His faith in us.
As any parent would be, He may be disappointed in a decision we make, but God will never leave or forsake us.
You could be the worst sinner out in the world, if one even exists, and God would love you regardless.
In church, you may be told that you’re loved with the love of the Lord and although I am not at all times open to it, to be loved with the love of the Lord is a very powerful thing. Having a love for another person like the love the Lord has for us is loving on a level that is beyond passionate.
Loving with the love of the Lord would cause a person to cross the line and become obsessive in the unhealthiest form.
No one can love you in the way the Lord loves you.
Loving someone the way God loves you would be like loving your partner for better or worse times a thousand.
Could you forgive your partner for cheating on you?
Could you forgive your partner for committing murder purposefully?
With repentance, God forgives us for things without a second thought. As humans, it’s more than just a little difficult to turn an eye unbattingly at things like that.
It’s for that no one can truly love with the Lord.
To love with the love of the Lord would be to accept every flaw that a person wears when you meet them, and accept every flaw that forms after. It means that you must be willing to sit with a person and listen to them cry for hours on end about their issues. It means that you be open to effortlessly forgive someone for acts that they commit before you know them and every day after.
God’s love is unconditional to the point that if He were a person, He’d probably be diagnosed as undoubtedly insane.
For these reasons, the love of the Lord is not achievable by anyone but the Lord himself.
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