She Loves: How to Speak the Languages of Love

Love is a universal language that everyone loves, accepts, and craves. However the style of the love language differs for every individual on earth. While love resonates best for some through quality time, others prefer acts of service or words of affirmation. Which language are you? Which languages are those closest to you?

 

The 5 love languages are Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Quality Time, Physical Touch and Gifts. We all receive love through them all but they are normally ranked differently for every individual. Here are some ways to speak each of these for the loved ones in your life.

 

Words of Affirmation

• After completing a task, project, or chore around the house- tell the person “You did an amazing job!”
• Always say “Thank You” and tell them you appreciate their presence in your life
• Never seek a reason to say, “I Love You.” Just tell them at random times to show you’re thinking of them
• Verbally encourage the person when they’re going through; become their cheerleader!

 

Acts of Service

• Intentionally seek ways to lighten their to-do list
• Always show that you’re reliable and dependable
• For your spouse, do things around the house for them without them asking

 

Quality Time

• Make an effort to call them randomly throughout the week to check on them
• Seek ways to spend time with them (whether via skype, phone call, or in person—which is always best), and hold to your appointment
• Never make it a habit with cancelling “dates”

 

Physical Touch

• If it’s your spouse, warmly embrace them often; If it’s a friend, hug them or link arms with them when you reconnect.
• For a spouse, understand that physical touch is more than just physical intimacy or sex. Touch them daily when you pass by them. (It doesn’t matter where but the graze of your touch reminds them of being wanted).
• For a spouse, hold hands often; for a friend, make a secret handshake or fist bump often.

 

Gifts

• The size of the gift doesn’t (normally) matter. Take the time to LISTEN to the things your loved ones speak about and buy them something that aligns with the things they discuss. For example, if they love fashion, gift them with a subscription for a Fashion Magazine.
• Randomly buy them their favorite chocolate/items/ thing.
• If they tell you what they want— just buy that! That shows that you’re listening.

 

If you’ve never done so, I encourage you to take the 5 Love Language assessment and encourage those you love to do the same! There are tests for couples, singles, and more!

Learn the languages of love and you can speak directly to the hearts of those you love most!

Share with us your love language and way’s you’ve taken time to speak the love language of others!